It seems as though the only thing anyone talks about this time of year is “did you overeat this holiday season?” Or “are you ready to lose weight” or “get in shape.”
Yeah, I’m sure we all can relate to those feelings in one way or another…I mean, I know I can (…my mom makes these special cream cheese cookies ONLY at Christmas time and I’m pretty sure I inhale them within 2 days and don’t share with anyone…) but did you know that even if you gain some weight over the holidays, or are already overweight, you are still a good person and worthy of living a life of happiness and without stress or anxiety? It’s true!
Sure, losing 5, 10, or maybe even 20+ pounds might make us HEALTHIER…but will it really make us “lighter?” Will 20 less pounds on your body fix the drama at work? Or soothe the pressures of taking on too many responsibilities? Probably not.
It’s amazing how much weight we carry around that can’t be measured in pounds. Anxiety? Weightless. Jealousy? Weightless. Mental stress? Weightless. You see where I’m going here? Let’s take a look at a few areas where we can “lose some weight.”
Separating ourselves from relationships that no longer serve us
Some people enter our lives for a moment, some for a season, and some for a lifetime – but there’s always a reason for why they came into our lives.
Once that person/relationship begins to feel forced or out of obligation it starts to weigh us down. Makes us feel stuck.
Social media is notorious for developing these fake/forced relationships. (Don’t get me wrong! I have “met” MANY awesome people online who I have never actually met face to face in real life who feel more like friends than people I actually know.)
But, sometimes we are “friends” with people online because we “used to” know them…in like 5th grade or whatever. Do we REALLY need to be connected on Facebook to EVERYONE in our graduating class? Probably not.
Sometimes connections happen because of business or client/coach/mentor relationships. Sometimes it’s a long term connection….annnnnd sometimes you find out maybe it’s not the best fit. That’s ok – that’s life…but why keep connected with people you have no intentions of working with ever again? Is FOMO (fear of missing out) worth the extra weight we carry around for no reason? Unfriend – Unfollow – Unsubscribe…and see how much better you feel.
Stop doing things you used to love but now hate
Ok, so there are just some things in life we HAVE to do that we never really enjoy (like paying bills or going to the gynecologist) but then there are other things that maybe we ONCE enjoyed but now start to dislike…loathe…hate. These things used to be fun but now feel like a chore and we dread having to do it every time it comes up.
No offense to those who have never really been self motivated but Type A personalities with “go getter” attitudes often like to finish things they started…and usually like to finish first – but that’s not important right now.
I think this has to do with the whole “don’t be a quitter” thing. Quitters don’t finish so that’s like giving up or failing. For perfectionists failing is not an option – even if that means giving yourself stress and anxiety in the process of seeing something through to the end.
Well, when put like that, it sounds pretty stupid to torture yourself like that, right?
Maybe it’s age, maybe it’s motherhood, or maybe it’s just life experience but this year I “quit” or “gave up” things I started or said I was going to do because I was feeling obligated.
At one time in my life I would have half assed it to get it done so I didn’t have to say “I quit” but this time I asked myself “how much better will I feel if I STOP doing x-y-z?”
It’s scary admitting you have to stop doing something because you can no longer make it work – but if you keep doing it the tension between you and your spouse or partner will continue – yelling at your kids for being kids will continue – feeling the stress, anxiety and pressure to complete something that you don’t HAVE to do will build.
When I made the decision to walk away from some of the things I committed to I knew it was the right decision because it felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders almost instantly.
Sometimes things happen to us in life that’s not fair. A partner cheats on you, your best friend lies to you, someone steals from you – these things can range what might be considered mild by some to severe by others.
I’m not saying you have to forget the wrongdoing but what I am saying is – how is this grudge serving you? If every time you think about the incident or person who did you wrong does it make you feel good? Probably not. Continuing to be mad after something happens to us is on us – not our offender. When we chose to forgive we no longer produce negative energy or live in negative headspace. We free ourselves up to receive new experiences, forge new relationships, and just generally live happier.
Let 2018 be the year that you finally lose the extra weight you have been carrying around for years…and keep it off for good.