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Mom-spiration Team Blogger, Strong Momma Jesse
Am I am approaching my 30th birthday in December, I have learned a few things over these years.
Let me digress a little and talk about the age 30. Why is 30 so difficult for me to wrap my brain around? If age is just a number, then why am I having such a hard time accepting this number? I don’t feel 30, and I don’t think I look 30 (I’ve convinced myself that I’ll always look 21. Forever).
But let’s get back on track.
1. Being a mom is the most rewarding job you will ever have. Let me say that again. Being a mom is the most rewarding job you will ever have. Rewarding JOB. JOB. Being a mom is a job and don’t let anyway every tell you any different. Whether you’re a SAHM, part time working mom, or a full time working mom, being a mom is still your number one job. Your number one responsibility. God gave you the gift of your beautiful children and it is your responsibility to do that job right. When you think you’re messing it up, you’re not. Just like any job, you’re entitled to a “lunch break” as well. Take these breaks. Get your nails done, eat something healthy, get a massage, take a warm bath, then come back from your break rejuvenated.
2. If you’ve been on the fence about getting eyelash extensions, do it! You won’t regret it. Let me tell you, I’m a gym rat and I’m constantly gross and sweaty. When everything else on me is a mess, at least my lashes make me feel pretty.
3. Keep cash in your wallet. In a “plastic driven” world, you never know when a fireman may be standing on the side of the road asking for donations for the family of his fallen brother.
4. Re-find what makes you who you are. Before we started our careers, got married, and had children, we were an individual. We had a passion. As moms, our passions and wants get put on the back burner as we take on more responsibility. I am more than a mom. You are more than a wife. Don’t lose sight of that. You are the glue that holds your family together. I know that my ship would sink if it weren’t for me. Not a brag. Simply fact. You have to be the best version of you to keep your ship afloat.
5. While you’re re-finding what makes you, you, don’t try to fit in. I’ve tried to fit in most of my life and yes, I’ve molded, but it wasn’t true. Be happy. Don’t do what is always expected. Be the sunflower in the field of black eyed susan’s.
6. Stop obsessing over our “steps”. When I first got my Garmin Vevoactive, I was OBSESSED with reaching my step goals. I would even walk extra laps around the kitchen in the evenings to reach my goal. I teach group exercise for a living. Why I was so worried about a stupid little number when I already KNEW my steps were adequate? More than adequate! Why do we need a watch to remind us to move? Are we that unaccountable for ourselves that we can’t remember to move? Can’t we just use a watch for its intended purpose? (Wait no, we have a phone for that. Oh, and we also have watches that double as phones too). If you are exercising most days of the week, weight training 2-3, you don’t need a device telling you to move. You already to take the steps rather then the elevator. Be accountable for your own decisions.
7. Decisions. Make one decision every day to improve yourself. If you’ve been wanting to get back on track with your eating habits, fitness, or both, then start today. “I’ll start on Monday” doesn’t work anyone. On Monday, let’s stop soda. Tuesday: drink more water. Wednesday: instead of eating out 3x a week, make it once a week. Baby steps to a happier and healthier you.
8. Experiment with makeup. We all like to feel pretty, even if we don’t plan on leaving the house today. Sometimes a fresh face can put things into a whole new perspective. I know for myself when I feel like I look good, my whole mindset is better. Don’t give into that “leggings and oversized sweater” everyday. You are a woman so embrace your beauty and emphasize it.
9. Drink more water. Every part of your body will thank you. A lot of us have heard of the 8 classes of water each day; however, there is little scientific fact and evidence to support this statement. Water is your body’s principal chemical component and makes up about 60 percent of your body weight. Every system in your body depends on water. The amount of water we need each day is not a “one size fits all” determination, and depends on our lifestyle. Factors such as exercise [intensity], environment, and pregnancy/nursing all contribute to our water intake. So how much water do I need everyday? Ideally we should be drinking half of our body weight in water. For example, a 150 pound person should be drinking about 75 ounces of water each day. During exercise, you may want to add 8-12 ounces per 30mins of exercise (depending on intensity). So drink up!!
10. We’re not perfect. I’m not perfect. I try so hard to do it all. From working, workout out, preschool mom, pto member, den leader, family boss…I still end up short. I try to go on Pinterest and make my kids birthday parties look over the top. I decorate my house every holiday to look like I’m living in a Pier 1 magazine. Who am I trying to impress? I don’t care what other people think. All I care about is that I’m doing right by my family. So when is enough, enough? Stop trying to be the best. You’re already the best in your family’s eyes. Isn’t that enough?
11. You know that saying, “My gut is telling me…”? Listen to your gut. It’s always right.
12. No specific food is a super food. Your kale isn’t going to cure cancer. Your blueberries aren’t going to make you fly. Just eat healthy. Eat clean. You will see the benefits from all these super healthy foods as a whole, I promise.
13. I do all my best thinking when I’m taking a bath or shower. I mean, we’re all moms, we’re lucky if we can even have any alone time to shower, but if you do, it’s amazing where your mind can go.
14. Take a spin class. Now, I’m not just saying that becasue I teach it. I’m for real. It’s an amazing cardiovascular workout that works every muscle in your body. I have made some lifelong friends from when I first started teaching. Friends that have thrown me baby showers for two of my pregnancies. Friends that aren’t just “gym buddies”. I love the friendships more than the class. *side note: buy a seat cover. It’ll help your booty.
15. Get off your high horse and go to Walmart. Yes, Target is awesome, but Walmart is cheaper. Save some money! Your bank account will thank you.
16. Sometimes peanut butter on crackers late at night is worth it.
17. Nutella is worth the cheat too.
18. No matter who you voted for in the 2016 election, we are all doomed.
19. If your kid won’t eat his veggies, don’t stress over it. He can’t live on chicken nuggets forever. Eventually he will give in, but for today, it’s not worth the fight.
20. Have family movie night. It doesn’t happen every week, but when it does, it is just happy. My kids love it. It brings us together as a family.
21. Speaking of coming together, try to eat dinner together as a family. I know you are running from pillar to post, but that 20-30 mins in the everythings may be the only time you have to talk about your days. You need to hear about your kids’ days.
22. Manners are just important today as they were 100 years ago. “Please” and “thank you” go a long way.
23. This is the BEST wine. I buy it at Wegmans. It’s super sweet and full of sugar and I don’t care. Cheers!
24. Your kids are most often a reflection of you. Think about that.
25. Salt water fixes everything. Sometimes you need a good cry. Sometimes you need to sweat it out.
26. People deal with stress differently. However you chose to deal with your stress make sure you address it in a healthy, effective way. Stress will destroy you. Don’t let it.
27. Don’t take everything so damn serious. If you’re going to dish it out, learn to take it. Make jokes. Have fun. Laugh. A smile always looks pretty on someone.
28. Goldendoodles are the best dogs.
29. Give yourself something to look forward to. I’ve always found that if I have something exciting happening in the near future, the end of a current something isn’t always a sad. It can be as fancy as a family vacation, a holiday, or even a simple dinner and drinks with a friend on a Friday night.
30. The last thing I’ve learned is the most raw, personal thing I have learned, and am still continuing to learn. This piece of me is undoubtedly the most important. Even more important than being a mom. Being happy with who you are. Being happy in your own skin. I have suffered on and off with an eating disorder for 18 years. I have been afraid to eat certain things, and if I did eat them, I would purge and or exercise for hours. In a society where we are judged by how we look, this is something near and dear to my heart. Just the other day, I saw a young girl, maybe 3rd grade, looking in the mirror and trying to suck in her stomach. And so it begins. It broke my heart, becasue I was that girl. I know what it’s like to be bullied. It’s relentless. It’s debilitating. It changes you. I BEG YOU to remind your daughters they are beautiful. Teach them the importance of healthy foods and that’s it’s OK to enjoy cake, ice cream and pizza. Food is my kryptonite. I calculate everything I eat. It’s exhausting but everyday is a battle between that devil and that angel on my shoulders. But also, everyday I am learning to love me.
Last but not least: Be Still. Take a moment and count your blessings. Enjoy every moment, becasue it’s just a moment. I swear my 7 year old was born yesterday. Don’t get caught up in the stress and the chaos. It’s easy enough to do but that window is small and the time flys by in the blink of an eye.
On that note, here’s to another 30 years of things to learn 💋