Worrier or Warrior?

October 24, 2016

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Mom-spiration Team Blogger, Strong Momma Jesse


Are the kids OK?

How am I going to pay this bill?

What if something happens to me?

What do I have lined up for my retirement?

Does this shirt make me look fat?

Am I enough?

We ask ourselves similar questions day after day. Yesterday’s sermon in church really spoke volumes to me. I took a day to reflect over it. The sermons topic was centered around WORRYING, and I can’t begin to tell you how much I worry on a daily basis. I am a self-proclaimed worry-wort.

“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength” –Carrie ten Boom

We spend hours, days, month, even a lifetime worrying about things that we may, or may not, be able to control. For some of us, it completely consumes us and effects our abilities to be a mom.

“It’s not the work that kills people, it’s the worry. It’s not the revolution that destroys machinery. It’s the friction” –Henry Ward Beecher

Being a mom has caused me to worry about things every day. My life is one big worry-fest. I worry that something is going to happen to one of my kids at school. I worry that the baby isn’t breathing when he sleeps through the night. I worry that my husband is going to get in a car accident when he’s driving with them (because no one can do it like me).I worry that someone is going to steal them from the gym daycare while I’m working out. I worry that they’re going to get sick… really sick.

I worry that I’m not doing enough.

I worry that I’m not enough.

In a world where we worry about not having enough of ANYTHING, we have BJ’s.

In a world that we worry about not having enough room, we have a 4000 sq ft house.

In a world were we worry about being unsafe on the road, we drive a Hummer.

In a world where we worry about not having enough food for dinner, we have a 6 burner stove…. (What are we cooking that requires 6 burners at one time?!)

In a world were we worry about our children’s well-being, we worry even more.

What if.

WHAT IF my son gets bullied?

WHAT IF my house gets broken into while my husband is on travel for work?

WHAT IF I’m not enough?

Have you heard the phrase “Idol time is the Devil’s playground”?

Well, “what-if’s” are the Devil’s puppets and he is the marionette.

If you’re a chronic worrier, “what if’s” can break you. “What if’s” are messy and dirty and unrelentless. They are a parasite and your thoughts, fears, and anxieties are their host.

How do we fix this? How do we STOP letting the thoughts, the fears, the anxieties consume us?

Take a Breath. Take a moment and slow down. Recognize the things we cannot change–the things that are out of our hands. Will worrying about it change the outcome? Can we fix it? Are we worried about a what-if? If the problem is solve able, then brainstorm ways you can address it.

Reconnect and Refocus. Anxieties and thoughts sneak up on us. When we are driving. Laying awake in bed at night. When we are alone. When you find yourself worrying, STOP. Redirect those thoughts to something else. Something positive. Do you have too much idol time? Alone time and quiet thoughts can be a recipe for disaster. Redirect that idol time and turn it into something productive.

Exercise. Go for a walk. Maybe a run. Take a class. Join a group. Find a Refocus those thoughts.

Because let me tell you mommas, you are a warrior.

You are enough.


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  • kathleen waldvogel October 24, 2016 at 4:06 pm

    Great blog Jess, most women NEED to hear this!!!!