Post submitted by Strong Momma, Jesse
This blog post is for us moms. This is a reminder that we need to put ourselves first. As you are reading this, I KNOW you are thinking I am selfish. I’m sure you are saying to yourself right now:
“Jesse, myself first? I have 3 kids (4 if you include my husband), breakfast that they complain about because it’s not candy, elementary school car line, preschool drop-off, endless laundry, a train wreck of a house, preschool pickup, lunch that they complain about because it’s not candy, homework, that damn dog, dinner that they complain about because it’s not candy, and bedtime.”
Bedtime. That’s a fun time. I like to refer to bedtime as Purgatory. This is the place where you are SO close to reprieve, yet very close to Hell. They still want 25 books read to them, endless trips BACK to the bathroom, water (hmm, maybe I’ll install a trough of water in their rooms….), songs (this is my chance to fulfil my dream of being a performer), acrobatics (this is where we jump from spot to spot on the floor to avoid the creeks so we don’t wake the baby), and finally cardio (you know, the THOUSAND times we have to run up and down the stairs to get them TO GO TO SLEEP). But I digress…
At the end of the day, we are exhausted. Our tank is depleted– only to be “refilled” the following morning with coffee. Lot’s of coffee.
Look, I get it. I am looking in a mirror as I type this. I have learned from my own mistakes. Let me encourage YOU to learn from my mistakes.
We are all moms trying our best to do right by our families, but how are we going to do right, be our best, do our best, if our tanks our empty? You’re saying, “I can’t put myself first. Let’s be real, I don’t even think I’m in the race! I feel like I’ve forfeited long ago”.
Well, lace up your shoes girlfriend, and get back in the race. Even if you’re dead last.
Here is an analogy for you. I’m sure we have all flown a time or two. If not, before the plane takes off, the flight attendant stands up and says, “In the case of an emergency, the air masks will fall from the ceiling. PUT YOUR AIR MASK ON FIRST BEFORE YOU HELP OTHERS”.
Put your air mask on first.
Put YOURSELF first.
Many people have written and spoke about the “air mask” analogy before. It’s a common and powerful analogy. The point is, we cannot help others if we are not helping ourselves first. If we do not have any oxygen, we are certainly not going to be able to help our child get oxygen. Scary.
Let me encourage you to put your air mask on first. We are all fit moms, so we KNOW the importance and the priority of exercise, but it runs deeper than that. For some of us, the gym, running, or taking a class is our only “me” time. This hour isn’t enough.
Put down the phone. Get off of Pinterest.
It’s OK that you didn’t make a 4 course dinner for your family from scratch– Trust me, your kids won’t eat it anyway.
It’s OK that you’ve restarted the dryer 3 times because you don’t feel like folding the clothes– You all still have plenty of clothing upstairs to wear.
It’s OK that you put cold pizza in your kids lunch today– he’s eating, and not complaining. Cold pizza one day won’t set him up for academic failure.
It’s OK that toys are scattered throughout the family room this morning– they are having fun playing and no one is crying.
It’s OK that you let your kids watch some TV Saturday morning– It felt good to relax and enjoy some peace and quiet for a little bit, didn’t it?
It’s NOT OK that we have neglected ourselves. Moms, it’s time to put ourselves first. Take the time to finish our cup of coffee on the first try (without having to reheat it in the microwave). Read that book we started 3 months ago. Watch that makeup tutorial and learn how to contour (haha yeah… I looked like a clown. And not a funny clown, but one of those serial killer clowns. But I digress again). Go on a date with our husband (trust me, he misses that too).
Fill your tank up. Find yourself again.
Put your air mask on first.